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Experiencedcaregiver, Coach
There comes a point when you are caring for someone you love where you must decide that letting go, so someone can find peace is humane. That is the right time to let go and realize death is part of life and happens to everyone.
Although I am still young, I have lost many friends and family members to numerous causes, freak accidents, and rare diseases. I have managed to pick myself up and move forward better and better each time. I believe there are specific methods that help alleviate these difficult times and struggles. It may be different for everyone, but I have found several methods and practices that have worked for me over and over.
My partner was a fighter. I always though she could beat cancer. Then when she didn't I was not prepared,to say the least. I cried for 9 months constantly. I was a 59 year old at the time and had not cried since I was a young teen. The crying eventually subsided. A positive aspect came of this. I now will tear up over the seemingly slightest things in life or on TV. I was cut off from my emotions prior to this. My Father passed, whom I loved, and I hardly shed a tear. But Dad went before my partner. Now I know time has the schedule on this and I let any want or hope of control over tears go. I have years of experience I can share if it will help.
Every now and then, caregivers just need to talk with someone who keeps confidences. Accepting the current situation and letting go can be very emotional. I'm up for providing any support I can.
I worked for a hospice company for two years and worked with families and patients cope with death and letting go.
I'd be happy to chat and offer support where I can.